At What Age Did You Lose Your Compassion...

October 25, 2016 28 Comments

The other day when I was browsing Instagram, I came across a photo that made me stop and really take a step back and think….

 

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Now, this phrase can go in so many directions, from human life, to animal cruelty and so on... but today I want to take this in another direction, and that is: At What Age Did You Lose Your Compassion for YOURSELF!  Yes, you beauty!

The entire vibe behind SLR, as you may already know, is to love the skin you are in, to fall madly in love with your life and most of all YOU. To really embrace your curves, imperfections and fuel your body with things that is going to leave it thriving and flourishing vs lethargic and blah.

 

For me personally, I lost my compassion for myself when I was 17 and didn’t really get it back until about 10 years later. I was awful to my body, from the food I ate ( lack thereof) to over exercising, to the drinking to just the overall negative thoughts that ran through my head about myself on a daily basis. I am not sure I was ever truly myself in front of people, I was always trying to play a role of the perfect employee, the perfect friend, the perfect girlfriend… I was a little chameleon. And at the end of the day when it was just me, myself and I, I said the worst things to myself and treated my body horribly. Negative mind chatter is one of the worst things that you can do to yourself, because what we think we eventually become so our thoughts are more powerful than we give them credit for.

Thankfully for me, I made my way out of this dark tunnel and I did come out on the other side. I found the plant based lifestyle, which changed my world and the way I look at things completely around, but even though I was finally eating food that was making me come alive from the inside out, it wasn’t really until a few years later that I truly found my compassion for myself. I dove in and read so many self help books ( but not the corny kind – well not all of them were ) and really worked on my inner spirit. A lot of meditating, relearning how to talk to myself and change my negative chatter to positive chatter…. as cheesy as it sounds, it worked. Having that mind, body and soul connection is where it's at beauty... and once you have it, it's priceless! And still to this day, when I have my days (cause we all do) I am much kinder to my soul, my compassion for myself is there. If I miss a workout, or two or six, I don’t beat myself up. If I have a bad day, I let myself feel  it, I listen to my soul, but I don’t let it trickle to the next day and the next,  like I would have before. 

Having compassion for yourself is crucial. You have to set aside time in your day to give your mind, body and soul a little me time. And your story isn't going to be like mine, but I know from going through my journey and learning how to maneuver and have a different outlook on things that we all need to have a little more compassion for ourselves, regardless of our individual journey. It's easy to be compassionate towards others but it makes no sense if we aren't showing ourselves the same compassion. Stop the self hate talk. Stop the comparing yourself to others and thinking that somebody else has it all and is perfect etc. because that person you are looking at that you think is "perfect" I guarantee she has her own insecurities... because we all do. You have to learn to love every inch of yourself as you are in this very moment. Embrace everything that makes you, YOU beauty. Have compassion for yourself and how far you have come in your journey. Because there is nobody else like you in this world. 

 

Be Balance. Live Spontaneously. Do YOU!

 

Stacie 

 

 

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